Let’s talk about talking about your sexual fantasies with your lover. Some of you reading this may have fantasies of being a dominatrix or a super hot porn star. Others are just naturally shy about talking about sex with your significant other.
Your lover may have no interest in sharing their fantasies with you unless you ask them to. If they are open to the idea, you can help them by allowing them to share.
Talking to your lover about your fantasies helps the fantasy to become reality. You create a connection with your lover and that creates a form of excitement and stimulation that is absent when talking about something that may not be real. When your lover tells you that he or she wants to spend the night with you for that particular fantasy, you feel more connected and excited.
Your lover will also gain pleasure from having you and enjoying the fantasy that you will share with them. Your fantasy doesn’t have to be long or drawn out. It can be as simple as the two of you taking off your clothes and letting them do all the touching and kissing. As you practice, you can increase the amount of time that you spend on it.
The biggest issue with your partner fantasies is that many people feel uncomfortable talking about them with their lover. It is understandable that your lover would have fears of having their fantasies come true or finding themselves with another man or woman.
However, talking about it helps you understand that fantasies are not unusual and if you were to be given the opportunity to fulfill a fantasy, you would have no problem doing so. Sometimes you may even find yourself in a fantasy state. A large part of communication is understanding that each of us has erotic desires.
Talking about your sexual fantasies with your lover will help you understand what kind of fantasies you are having and why you are having them. This knowledge will give you the confidence that comes from a better understanding of yourself. Talking about your fantasies with your lover will allow you to know what is going on with your body that makes you feel aroused.
You need to understand that these fantasies will change over time. They will still be part of your lives, but they will not dominate your sexual relationship like they used to.
Some people use fantasizing as a way to forget their worries and anxieties about the things that may happen in the real world. For example, a person who is afraid of driving may fantasize about going to a foreign country and meeting some strange people and turning into a porn star. Using these fantasies to cover for what is bothering you will take the burden off your shoulders and will allow you to connect better with your lover.
Talking about your sexual fantasies with your lover will also enable you to let go of any fantasies that you may have about the opposite sex. If you think about engaging in a sexual act with someone, you can just say that it was a fantasy and you are not going to do it. It doesn’t matter how good or bad it turns out, you can forget about it.
It is a great thing to share with your lover and it can help you bond better. If you feel stuck on a certain fantasy, start telling your lover about it and see what happens. The excitement that comes from communicating about your fantasies will help you unlock the truth about your fantasies and help you find new ways to explore them.
Your lover may not agree with what you do, but that is fine. If your lover is comfortable with your fantasies, you have found the key to unlocking your sexuality. You will be able to share your new-found pleasure with your lover and find new ways to express your desires in bed.